“What does it say about our culture that the desire for weight loss is considered a default feature of womanhood?”
I’ve been a fan of Roxane Gay‘s for a while — it started with Bad Feminist, then I followed her on Twitter (trust me, you want to, too), and then Difficult Women. They are all varying in genre: nonfiction, fiction, memoir, and Gay brings her unflinching honesty + powerful voice to each of them. But Hunger might be the most vulnerable and important of them all.
“Writing this book is a confession. These are the ugliest, weakest, barest parts of me. This is my truth. This is a memoir of (my) body because, more often than not, stories of bodies like mine are ignored or dismissed or derided. People see bodies like mine and make their assumptions. They think they know the why of my body. They do not.”
Gay’s experience is not mine, which, aside from wanting to read all of her work, is why I was so eager to get my hands on a copy. It’s important we read books that aren’t always echoing our own lives — especially in our current society. Approaching someone’s personal story with an open mind and heart is crucial to creating a more open and accepting society. Gay’s raw vulnerability makes it impossible not to feel empathetic, and to think differently about the way we view others and the assumptions we make.
At times painful and heartbreaking, Hunger should be required reading for all humans.
“I hope that by sharing my story, by joining a chorus of women and men who share their stories too, more people can become appropriately horrified by how much suffering is born of sexual violence, how far-reaching the repercussions can be.”
Big thanks to Harper Collins for sending this — I have no doubt it will stick with me and be one of my favorite reads of 2017.
For more of what I’m reading, follow me on my bookstagram (aka books on Instagram) at @kathareads.
(Fair warning, this book deals with difficult subject matters like rape, drugs, and eating disorders.)
Don’t miss her interview on NPR’s Fresh Air!